Monday, October 20, 2008 Like a kid in a.... jewelry store So, I went into my mom's closet, and you would not believe what I found. My creative, practical mom had converted a giant fishing box into the mother of all jewelry boxes. Right?! She has every little tiny drawer labeled with what's in there. So I brought this out to show my family, and we had a really good time looking at all the wonderful things she had in there. A lot of it was pieces that she'd made herself, including she has a whole collection of necklaces made from beautiful shells she found on the beach. I know these necklaces well, because even in the hospital she insisted on looking classy, down to the jewelry. And these necklaces always seemed to come with her. I know why... the beach was just so important to her. But for me, I know that some of those shells came from when she and I were walking on the beach together, just the two of us, in Florida this last January. I was so overwhelmed by it all, that we decided that I should take the box home and decide what to keep, and what to give away. So I've had this box for 2 weeks now, and I realized this last week that every single morning I've been walking to the guest room, where I put the box, to see if there's anything of my mom's that I can encorporate. I've been feeling really guilty about the whole thing because it's just so much fun to have something new and different every day, but how can I feel happy about something like that? I KNOW my mom would be thrilled that I'm enjoying it so much, but you know... A really thing has happened since my mom died. I actually started caring about fashion. Not just "eh, I think I should get a new shirt....", I've actually been lusting after things. If you knew me, you'd know this is out of character. I've gone purse shopping TWO DAYS IN A ROW this week. (Sadly, didn't buy anything. Did you know that cool purses are over $100?!) I know a lot of it has to do with the fact that I've heard so much in the last few weeks how much I remind people of my mom, but I definitely have a lot of work to do to catch up with her. And no, I'm not just talking superficially. I've also heard countless times in the last few weeks how people never met anyone like my mom; she had infinite patience and compassion for every type of person. And if there were a store to get that, I'd be shopping for that too.... |
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I'm Amanda. I'm an engineer in an industry full of men, a professional wedding and family portrait photographer, a firefighter's wife, a traveler, and a dogMa. daily reads flickr blogger archives |
3 Comments:
Amanda, I am so,so,so terribly sorry to hear of your mom's death. I do have an idea of how you are feeling as I lost my dad to cancer when I was 34. It is hard to imagine how life can go on so normally, when you feel anything but normal inside. I really think your blog is the perfect place for you to remember your mom by, and it will be a place when you can look back a year from now, years from now and be glad that you did write those memories down.
I am including a poem that I really love and hope that it brings you some comfort.
Your friend,
Ramona
Death is nothing at all
I have only slipped away into the next room
I am I and you are you
Whatever we were to each other
That we are still
Call me by my old familiar name
Speak to me in the easy way you always used
Put no difference into your tone
Wear no forced air of solemnity or sorrow
Laugh as we always laughed
At the little jokes we always enjoyed together
Play, smile, think of me, pray for me
Let my name be ever the household word that it always was
Let it be spoken without effort
Without the ghost of a shadow in it
Life means all that it ever meant
It is the same as it ever was
There is absolute unbroken continuity
What is death but a negligible accident?
Why should I be out of mind
Because I am out of sight?
I am waiting for you for an interval
Somewhere very near
Just around the corner
All is well.
Nothing is past; nothing is lost
One brief moment and all will be as it was before
How we shall laugh at the trouble of parting when we meet again!
Canon Henry Scott-Holland, 1847-1918, Canon of St Paul's Cathedral
love that photo Panda. I hope you snagged it.
such a great pic!
and I think if you continue to be you, you'll end up more like your mom that you even realize :)
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