Sunday, May 20, 2007
And at the end...
I've been tossing the idea around in my head for a while of throwing a party for my mom to celebrate kicking cancer's ass. The theme, I know, is going to be Asian to highlight the wonderful paper crane project she's undertaken. She received 1000 paper cranes from her amazing friends at work in accordance with Japanese custom. My mom, who has taken every opportunity during this struggle to create postitive things out of an impossible situation, worked with the hospital to get the cranes into the children's cancer ward to give them hope as well. I've been in her room when she's talked to counselors, nurses, doctors, anyone... who would listen to her idea of spreading hope through these cranes...
Back to the party. I have been so impressed with the people in my mom's life who have done so much to help her get through all her treatments, hospital stays, infections, ICU visits, difficult recoveries at home.. I just had to do something. So I'm throwing a party! A thank you party for everyone who has shown there love for my mom because she deserves it. She's just that wonderful...
But at the same time as we're shaking our heads wondering how all these people could do so much for one person, we've definitely discovered who true friends are. It is amazing the people who disappear when something like Lukemia strikes. My mom's closest colleague at work, her oldest friend.. Where are they?
And one of the things that has amazed me is how some of my girlfriends stepped up. I've had a lot of time over the last 7 months to think about why people react the way they do.. And on a selfish note, I've been thinking about how wonderful my girlfriends are and how much I love them. Bec has visited my parents, sent magazines to keep my mom entertained, constantly checked to see how I was dealing, and she even got her parents involved. They sent cards to my mom! Not that I should be surprised because they're amazing people... And then there's my girlfriends who moved far away. Not only did KC send her well-wishes, she comissioned her awesome mama to make some meals when things were rough. And Jen, my oldest friend, sent my mom DVDs to make the hospital more tolerable and she and her boyfriend not only visited with my mom, but her bf took it upon himself to get involed in the paper crane project! He's responsible for the paper crane decoration my mom has in her hospital room right now, and I hear he's making some decorations for our party. Hope this guy sticks around! Love him.
And then there's Kel. Everyone who reads Kel's blog knows that she's a giving person, but with my mom.... I just don't know what to say. She's made meals. She's crafted gifts. But most of all, she's just been there. For me and my mom. I don't know how many times she's been to the hospital, but I have a feeling by reading on her blog about her 'friend Judy' that its more times than I know. I just don't know what to say about that.
I guess my point with this is that even though I know my girlfriends have done these things because my mom is such a good person, I really do think they've done it because they love me. And I'll be forever greatful that I have such good friends...
I'm Amanda. I'm an engineer in an industry full of men, a professional wedding and family portrait photographer, a firefighter's wife, a traveler, and a dogMa.