Tuesday, April 04, 2006

Wedding Photographer Etiquette

I love weddings. I know that some 'real' photographers consider photographing weddings to be kind of cheesy, but I would love it. I love the love. And I appreciate the preparation. So that's why I was so excited to go as my brother's date to a wedding on Sunday. I got my camera bag ready, carefully placed myself in a seat on the isle so I could lean in and get shots of the couple during the ceremony. And then THIS idiot shows up.

The only expertise I have in photographing weddings is.... well, none. But it doesn't take a genius to realize that a wedding photographer shouldn't stand RIGHT in front of the couple during the entire ceremony. The lovely family memebers of this couple all had their cameras out to capture the event, only to have this idiot ruin the whole thing. I couldn't even SEE the couple from where I was sitting. And I'm guessing that another rule of wedding photography is to be invisible. That bright-ass orange shirt certainly doesn't blend.

And if all that weren't enough.... at the end of the night this idiot comes up to my brother (who was the best man) and asked him if all the groomsmen lived in town. Well no, no they don't. Why do you ask? Well, he would like to 'do a reshoot of the groomsmen later in the week'. WHAT?!

I'm still trying to perfect use of my new lens, and I'm finding that I need lots of light, and NO movement to get a good shot. But I love the super shallow depth of field I get in every shot.

Besides the dumb photographer, it was a beautiful wedding. The groom's family owns a popular catering and party company in town, so the food was fantastic and the decorations were perfect. Oh, and the cake cost $1000! Cripe.

My most recent photography assignment is Portraits. We're supposed to take portraits of people 'In Our World'. I'm using the picture of Ryan after the fire that I love as one, and I'm hoping to get my mom to sit for me. She's totally gorgeous and photographs beautifully. Today I took off work for 2 hours to see her receive the "Woman of the Year" award at her work. She looked so beautiful and distinguished, and someone actually said to her that she looked younger than the last time they saw her. I hope those genes start working in my favor!

Anyway, back to protraits. We practiced last night in the studio at school w/ another student and her adorable daughter. It was hard to take a bad picture of these two. Here's one I like:

After we finished in the studio, we followed some music on campus to a huge room filled with people in their best dress dancing to a big band. It was the Generations Ball held every year at the college. The Ball gets together older folks and young college athletes for a night of dancing and bridging the gap. My whole class crashed the party and attempted to blend into the crowd and practice our skills. It was amazing. These older folks could DANCE. And the young chippies? Not so much.

So I started thinking about how it seems like true dancing seems to be fading out. It has been a really long time since I've danced with a man who knows how to truly lead a woman. I'm so blessed that my mom taught us to dance when we were young.

When we were young, my mom cooked a fancy dinner every night so that we could all sit down as a family. No TV, no phone calls, just family. But while dinner was cooking my brother and I learned. We learned the box step, the waltz, and others. We started by standing on her feet and the older we got, the more complicated the dancing got.

So, how about you? Can you dance?

And could this post be any longer?


Blogger J. Star said...

Dang dude, just looked at yr new shots...*awesome!!!!!!!!!* I bet you are pleased as punch :) Things sure seem to be going your way lately my friend. I am glad :)

8:56 PM  
Blogger barbie2be said...

that wedding photog is an idiot. your shot of the bride and groom is lovely as is the one of you friend and her daughter. they both capture something special.

here from michele's tonight.

8:59 PM  
Blogger Fitèna said...

Is the photographer the guy with the orange shirt. Aren't they supposed to blend in the decor and not the opposite! How rude!!!

I love your pics! Is your cam a digi?


12:08 AM  
Blogger Sangroncito said...

I can't believe that idiot wore that ugly orange shirt! And how dare he block the view! He needs to be whipped with a wet roll of Kodak film.

8:47 AM  
Blogger Linda said...

I love the picture of the bride and groom in the boat. And the picture of the mother and child is gorgeous. I'm absolutely NOT fond of the idiot in the fugly shirt, lol! Thanks for visiting my blog today!

9:09 AM  
Anonymous Jenp said...

I can dance! Ok, well I try. I would love to take lessons... you can come take pics of my kids anytime you wish! love ya~

11:47 AM  
Blogger Mia said...

The wedding photag is a complete idiot. I just hope that his photos turn out okay because if he screwed up, no one else has any.

And yes, I can dance but the problem is that most people can't dance. All of the years of dance training for ballet and folk dance are worth something!

12:22 PM  
Blogger suleyman said...

I can't dance all formal like, but I can do a mean robot/west coast poplock and a redneck dance that involves knee slappin' and foot stompin'.


8:06 PM  
Blogger jennypenny said...

Oh my gosh I am so excited to be the first to congratulate you on being site of the day!!! Yippee i am doing the only dance i know.. the happy dance in your honour. Enjoy your day in the sun!

9:18 PM  
Anonymous Janet (fondofsnape@gmail.com) said...

I figure one should wear a nice suit to a wedding...if it's that type of wedding! That's what I plan on wearing. Hi, Michele sent me today :-)

9:56 PM  
Blogger jennypenny said...

Lol your comment to me was too funny. Just breathe, relax and enjoy your moment in the sun! Oh and change your blogger profile from male to female :P Unless I missed something along the way. haha

10:01 PM  
Anonymous catheroo said...

Hello, Michele sent me. Congrats on being Site of the Day!

I love hearing about your photography assignments because I just bought a way cool new camera and am starting classes myself next week. EEK!

Lovely shots, by the way!

11:02 PM  
Blogger mar said...

Haven't been here in a loooong time but I recognized your profile photo. You have photo assignments! what fun! sorry about the orange clock work, he should have known better. Congrats on being the site of the day, Michele sent me this time but I will be back for more pics! :)

12:12 AM  
Anonymous Scouser said...

Hi there, here from Michele's today, congratulations on being Site of the day.

2:21 AM  
Blogger Karen said...

I absolutely HATE when photographers do that. I always think the same thing! And nice that he wore a bright orange shirt so that he'd look discreet. Ha!

You obviously love photography and you're good at it. Keep up the great work. No, I can't dance, but I'd love to learn! (My hubby, not so much. Oh well.)

Michele sent me. Congrats on being site of the day!

4:09 AM  
Anonymous Scribe said...

You take beautiful photographs. Never mind the man who stepped right in front of the camera!

No I can't dance. I have two left feet and am hardly coordinated.

Hi! Michele sent me!

4:16 AM  
Blogger Robin said...

That IS an ugly shirt, but your picture of it? Gorgeous! I don't know how to dance, but I really want to learn. I work Friday Nights, though, and that is when a lot of the dancing workshops are held around here. I love your new site...I don't think I have been here since your 'makeover!' I am here from Michele's today!

4:29 AM  
Blogger Sue said...

Congrats on being SOTD -- Here from Michele's. My FIL is a photographer and the kind of shots this guy was taking are usually saved to do after everyone has left the church and before the reception. If the officiant allows, the photographer goes to the front (behind the officiant) and to the side to take some candids -- he was very rude indeed. Love yor pictures btw!!

4:31 AM  
Blogger Star said...

He was a "professional" photographer? Even I know that orange shirt is a no-no. THe bride and groom would probably appreciate getting copies of your photos. Michele sent me.

5:29 AM  
Blogger kenju said...

Congratulations on being Michele's site of the day, Atpanda. She sent me.

As a wedding florist, I see many a photographer who thinks he/she is the most important person of the day (to hell with the bride and groom...LOL). Orange shirt should have known better (and worn a milder color)!!

5:36 AM  
Blogger Thorn said...

really great photos...sorry about the Orange Shirted Photographer!...thorn
ps Michele sent me!

5:44 AM  
Blogger Miss Cow is a Cow said...

Hello again from Michele's M&G.

7:12 AM  
Blogger Marie said...

Your photos are great! Love that subtle unobtrusive "professional!" Aack!

Michele sent me... hello & congrats on being her site du jour!

7:18 AM  
Blogger Megan said...

Beautiful pictures. I bet yours are better than that photographer's!

Hi - Michele sent me!

7:18 AM  
Blogger Erin said...

Beautiful photos! I'm still Jonesin' for a new, improved camera.

Here from Michele's today! So glad you are site of the day, it's been a while. Come by my site, it's all new as well!


Have a wonderful day!

7:22 AM  
Anonymous Terri said...

Gorgeous photos and I'm a sap for weddings too. Somebody needs to send that professional photographer back to school...sounds like he ruined everybody else's shots and VIEW.
Very nice blog and congrats on being Site of the Day. Here from Michele today.

7:26 AM  
Anonymous chelle said...

Your pictures are amazing! I agree about wedding photographers, they most definitely should be invisible!!

Good luck in your classes...Congrats on being the site of the day! Michelle says Hi!

7:30 AM  
Blogger Gypsy said...

When an eejit that photographer was! I'm with you on the BRIGHT orange shirt.

Great shot of the mom and daughter!

I so cannot dance. Well, I can "young people dance," but I can't do any "dances." It's a shame.

Michele sent me.

7:38 AM  
Blogger Jade said...

What kind of wedding photographer wants to reshoot later in the week - no one will even have their tuxes then. He sounds like and looks like a real "winner". geesh. Here to say "Hi" from Michele's.

7:46 AM  
Blogger Deb R said...

Beautiful photos! (And I agree, the wedding photographer was rude and unprofessional. Whatta jerk!)

Michele sent me.

7:50 AM  
Blogger Radioactive Jam said...

Hello, Michele sent me...
I can't dance, but we *have* scheduled ballroom lessons so that should change soon. Unless I turn out to be a hopeless spaz.

8:25 AM  
Blogger Thumper said...

That guy totally did not graduate from Wedding Photographer's School. And who wears orange to a wedding anyway? I think even the guests wouldn't try to stand out so much.

Congrats on being Michele's site o'the day!!!

9:10 AM  
Anonymous Joan said...

I can't believe that photographer! Thanks for the info, though, because now I have two more questions I'll have to be sure to ask when choosing one for my own wedding someday: what do you wear and where do you stand during the ceremony? Good grief!

You, on the other hand, take lovely pictures!

Congrats on being Michele's site of the day. That's why I'm here today, but I sometimes drop by on my own.

9:11 AM  
Anonymous Sparkling Diamond said...

I don't think I have ever seen a wedding photgrapher with the balls and lack of integrity as orange shirt guy! How rude!
I am lucky to have a hubby who knows how to dance and has taught me. I'm glad Ballroom dancing is 'hot' now...it was becoming a lost art!
Here from Michele's. It was a very nice visit!

9:30 AM  
Blogger Carl V. said...

Visiting from Michele's. Love your blog header, that's very cool.

I was just having a conversation with a friend today about how I love wedding pictures. It is always fun to see what the bride was wearing and my contention usually is that all brides are beautiful. Great pictures!

9:38 AM  
Blogger InterstellarLass said...

Here from Michele's!

I agree, that ass should NOT have been standing in front of the B&G all ceremony long. He stands to the side and the rear.

The photo you took of the B&G is lovely!

9:58 AM  
Blogger Christi said...

I have to say that I completely disagree that true dance is out. Thanks to the joy of pop culture, I see ballroom dancing making a huge comeback thanks to Dancing With The Stars!! It'll happen. Hang in there =)

Here from Michele's.

10:21 AM  
Blogger Lia said...

I've seen wedding photographers do that. Apparently they feel that the record of the deed is more important than the deed itself.

Michele sent me.

10:26 AM  
Blogger shpprgrl said...

yes, he should've blended in better, definitely not dressed like a cone used in highway construction. he should've know better! someone should write him a 'fashion citation'. great blog, i'll be back. here from michele's.

10:59 AM  
Anonymous Dorkette said...

Wow, small world... I'm in Scottsdale!

Here via Michele...

11:51 AM  
Blogger Sandy said...

At my wedding the photographer wasn't even allowed to photograph the ceremony. We had to re-enact that after the fact for the pictures. Then again, that had more to do with the church "no photographs during the ceremony" rule than his own sense to stay out of the way.

Congrats on being site of the day! Michele sent me over.

12:46 PM  
Blogger Cin said...

I always thought that there was an unwritten code wedding photographers had to adhere to or have their businesses fail. I'm almost sure it included the following:

"yo buddy, blend in!"

"thou shalt not ruin the shot because you're taking a shot"

Your photos are lovely.

Here from the delightful Michele's...

2:54 PM  
Blogger Rene said...

Congrats on SOTD, I'm here from Michele's.

My wedding photographer was wonderful, a true professional. And the price tag proved it.

I can't dance and I'm trying to get my hubby to take dance lessons with me. It will happen someday. You have some lovely photographs.

3:31 PM  
Blogger MP said...

We paid a fortune to our wedding photographer and the photos were ok, not super-great. My favorite photo taken was from a relative (altho she's a pretty good photographer). Visiting from Michele's, hi!

5:36 PM  
Blogger Paige said...

I know I'm running a little behind. But hey there, here from Michele's. I take photos. So are even good. Some are just ok.

6:48 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

You take very beautiful pictures.

Yeah, at a wedding, a photographer should be invisible. To quote Marissa Tomei in My Cousin Vinnie..."Oh yeah, you blend."

Sadly, I dance like a white girl who grew up in the 80's. It's bad. LOL! It's a shame too. My Grandmother is still out shaking her stuff at least once a week and she'll be 81 next month.

Of course, this is also the reason she's had knee surgery and hip replacement. Fortunately, she learned and no longer does the twist. LOL!

8:35 AM  

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